The Four Immeasurables of a Beautiful Mind

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How do we know if we are progressing in our mental health care practice?

For physical health, there are certain clear objective metrics like weight loss or gain, Body Mass Index (BMI), distance run, weightlifting capacity and so on.

The metrics for mental health are not objective, and hence they are called ‘the immeasurables’. From the perspective of Buddhist meditation teachings, these are the four subjective metrics that you can experience as improving as the mind becomes a more beautiful place:

Loving-kindness (Metta): This is the cultivation of a genuine sense of friendliness, goodwill, and kindness towards all beings, including oneself. A willingness to wish happiness and well-being for everyone, without any discrimination or exceptions.

Compassion (Karuna): This is an increase in the feeling of empathy and a strong desire to alleviate the suffering of other sentient beings. It is an enhanced aspiration to understand and help those who are experiencing pain, distress, or difficulties.

Sympathetic Joy (Mudita): Sympathetic joy is seeing an improvement in your ability to rejoice in the happiness and success of others without jealousy or envy. A deeper felt sense of appreciating the positive experiences and achievements of others as if they were your own.

Equanimity (Upekkha): Equanimity is said to be the highest welfare. It is seeing a noticeably increased capacity to maintain a balanced and even-minded approach to all experiences, whether pleasant or unpleasant. This does not mean that you stop feeling or become indifferent to life. To the contrary, you feel everything even deeper and rest in the understanding that all experiences are impermanent, they are bound to change, so why get worked up about it? You feel a diminishment of attachment or aversion and remain calm and composed.

So often our friendliness, compassion, joy and contentment are narrowed down to a select few or dependent on some situation or person meeting or exceeding our expectations. If my capacity to have a beautiful mind is so conditional, and this fragile mind can get triggered so easily, it is no wonder that my mind gets disturbed so easily! When we live like this, in a way, we are living like beggars. This practice, in the yogic tradition, is called Raja Yoga, or the royal path. Our inner kingdom is always impeccable and fit for royalty.

A beautiful practice to exercise and enhance these qualities is to consider three people in your life in turn:

1. Someone that you have a great affinity for

2. Someone who you do not know well

3. Someone who you are currently jamming up with

Bring each of them to your attention, one by one, as if they are right in front of you, eye-to-eye, and express:

You are my friend. I only wish you well. I mean you know harm.

I see you. I truly see you. I feel what you are going through.

I wish you the very best of health, happiness, peace, and success in every way.

I set you free from any of my expectations. You are no longer responsible in any way for my happiness.

About the Author:

Bhaskar Goswami stands at the forefront of transformative leadership and mentoring, renowned for his commitment to enhancing individual and organizational well-being. As the founder of the acclaimed BODHI, he provides award-winning well-being solutions, and through daana, a CBC Media Prize Winning non-profit, he extends contribution-based wellness programs globally.

Originating from Assam, India, Bhaskar is deeply rooted in the ancient yogic tradition, descending from the lineage of Vasishtha, a pivotal figure in yoga’s inception. His education in transformative practices spans continents, having been mentored by esteemed masters in India, Kuwait, and Canada. He is a certified Master Coach (Ambassador and Professor) with the Accelerated Evolution Academy from WarriorSage Trainings, solidifying his role as a trusted mentor to business leaders and their teams across various prestigious organizations worldwide.

Bhaskar’s expertise is not confined to the realm of personal development; he has also made significant contributions in the academic and creative fields. He holds a Master’s Honors in Electronic Engineering from the University of Nottingham, England, complementing his extensive 10-year career in international engineering. His creative endeavours are manifested in his authorship of “Wisdom Stories — Book 1” and the production of two internationally acclaimed albums, “Open Yoga” and “Wisdom Stories.”

His impact as a speaker is far-reaching, having guided over seventy retreats and spoken at high-profile events, including the COP22 UN Global Climate Change Summit in Morocco. Bhaskar’s mission is to catalyze radical transformation in people and organizations, aligning their actions with their core values and purpose, thereby fostering sustainable success and meaningful growth.

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Bhaskar Goswami (bhaskargoswami.com)

radical transformation mentor, presenter, wellness and corporate culture consultant